Why these steps?
When we undergo a breakup, it’s overwhelming to face the separation of our loved one. Even if it ends on bad terms, it leaves us with a confused mindset involving both love and hatred. In this article, I have tried to explain steps which will simplify this process. Whether you wish you go back to the relationship or part ways forever, you can follow these steps!
1. The first step, No Contact Rule.
Yes, you need to do it. This will help both of you to allow yourself some time for self-introspection. In this period you will examine your mistakes and what exactly went wrong in the relationship. Another important point to follow is that during this time, you should not beg or plead to the other person to come back. Please stop if you are doing this, because if they are already annoyed with the situation, they would not like more guilt by watching you beg. You should ideally extend this no contact period for at least a month. In case, your partner calls then that’s not applicable. You can solve things then and there if this happens.
2. Take Care of Yourself
Not eating and getting less sleep might increase your stress levels more than what you are experiencing due to the breakup. Even if you don’t feel like eating, try to set up a good ambience in your room, pamper yourself, have scented baths and eat small servings frequently.
Realise the fact that taking proper care of self won’t prevent anything positive from happening. Instead, better things will come very soon. Become the person who was lovable and happy back again.
“The most difficult stage of breakup is acceptance of the same.”
3. Handling Acceptance
This is indeed the most overwhelming stage because here we realise that things aren’t just limited to a fight. We have parted ways really! You might feel like reaching out to them and telling them to come back. Or abusing them for hurting you or leaving you. But you have to control your emotions for a while, because when acceptance takes over, you will experience a sense of calm returning to your mind and soul.
4. Closure
When you have realised that your emotions are stable now, and you have accepted the breakup. You might still feel some unresolved feelings or the need to apologise for your mistakes when the person is gone. Meeting them once for a closure of the break-up is considered healthy at this stage. Because all relationships and individuals ought to be respected. Just arrange a casual date, if the other individual is ready to do so, and learn from the conversation as well. Maybe you will get to identify certain improvements in yourself or your relationship patterns. Communication is the key!
Nitika Mehra, M.A. in Clinical Psychology, is a psychologist and emotional wellness expert. She is dedicated to highlighting the role of mental health in fostering happiness, fulfillment, and overall wellness and spreading awareness about the importance of mental health and the methods of it’s management.
Currently Nitika is working as a school counselor in East Point School, Delhi and also provides online counseling on platforms like GoMentors. She has diverse work experience in the field of mental health and education and aspires to bring about a positive change in the lives of people whom she comes across. She also has a personal blog which promotes mental wellness and overall wellbeing. She tries to be a part of social work sector by donating blood regularly and volunteering for NGOs. Read More >>
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