The Magic Five!
1. Read with them.
Reading is a good habit that will be beneficial to them throughout their lives, so from the beginning years, sit with them and take part in it. Don’t tell them to read alone neither do it yourself.
Read along with your little ones to show them that reading is fun!
2. Let them Experiment.
When a child experiments with his toys, even breaks them in the process, let him do that unless they are expensive, because it is his creativity at action. We have a stereotyped pattern of parenting. We try to discipline the child to an extent that the creativity loses its grip on him. Sometimes children become dull and lousy due to this.
A child feels encouraged to perform when he knows that his work would be showcased!
3. Pave a way for his performance but don’t force him to perform.
If he wants to take part in different activities related or unrelated to academics, allow him to do that and appreciate him irrespective of the result that he achieves. But don’t force or push them to take part if they don’t want to. Because this makes the child resistant to such things, and he may stop taking initiative, Just shower him with your support and let him take time to bloom!
Appreciation can amplify a child’s enthusiasm to perform! It shows in his actions!
4. Appreciate when he performs and reward him.
Sometimes all we need is a pat on the back! to motivate us and help us improve even more! A little appreciation every day for his positive actions will go a long way in the development of your child. Always acknowledge the child’s efforts and reward him on his achievements or attempts in every area of life. Don’t make him obsessed to winning by appreciating his victories only because such children get stressed when they under perform. Reward the child at irregular intervals, so the absence of rewards doesn’t discourage him.
Nowadays many platforms are coming forward to inspire children to be more creative and encourage the spirit of participation in them. In my personal experience I recently came across a platform named,”Plowns” especially designed for children and their creative work. It’s like a digital library, which can store a user’s project, art work or other performance through pictures and also offers a rewarding system in form of stars. Special Awards are also given away periodically.
5. Shower him with your quality time and not materialistic gifts.
Fulfilling their every demand might make them adamant and non-resilient. In this age of ever increasing competition, we need to make our children how to hear a “NO” and also to cope up with failures. It is important for parents to spend quality time with children. Your quality time with kids make their memories with you. In this fast-paced world, we have to make space for our kids, and assure them that we care about them and will always be there as pillars of support. They need our love, kindness, and strength, so that they feel secure and confident with themselves.
It’s your quality time with kids that makes their memories with you.
We need to really talk to them and ask them about their school, bus and other things so that they find a home in you. If they know you are their safe place they will tackle every difficult situation, thrive and smile all their life and remember you as their idols.
Nitika Mehra, M.A. in Clinical Psychology, is a psychologist and emotional wellness expert. She is dedicated to highlighting the role of mental health in fostering happiness, fulfillment, and overall wellness and spreading awareness about the importance of mental health and the methods of it’s management.
Currently Nitika is working as a school counselor in East Point School, Delhi and also provides online counseling on platforms like GoMentors. She has diverse work experience in the field of mental health and education and aspires to bring about a positive change in the lives of people whom she comes across. She also has a personal blog which promotes mental wellness and overall wellbeing. She tries to be a part of social work sector by donating blood regularly and volunteering for NGOs. Read More >>
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